New Year Same You…. Again!
Did you make a New Year’s Resolution? I know there is pressure just about everywhere you turn to get that gym membership, to get on that diet, to make a change, to do something, anything to be different than last year.
If I had to be honest, my fabulous uncensored self is thinking “F*CK IT!”.
You are divine just the way you are.
That weight gain, those cravings, that relationship, the job, cellulite, gray hairs, uncontrollable cravings for junk, sagging boobs if you’ve nursed your kids as many years as I have mean you’re alive + breathing.
You might be thinking “Wait! What?!”.
SO what if I’m alive. I’m not where I want to be.
My job sucks and is downright not soul fulfilling.
That cellulite on my ass is pissing me off.
The extra 20 lbs makes me feel self conscious.
My relationship is not where I want it to be.
Those gray hairs make me feel old.
That boob job would really make me look so much better.
And why the hell can’t I get a handle on those cravings.
And the list goes on and on and on and on and on.
You know what the coolest part about having this stuff in your life is?
They are all MOTIVATORS for change and they are a reminder that you’re STILL ALIVE.
So why put all that pressure on yourself to set yet another New Year’s Resolution. The thought alone puts unnecessary pressure on you that only serves to make you miserable and keep you from taking action.
Keep in mind this is coming from a coach whose job is to help women get into action and kick cravings, increase confidence and feel your best.
Let me explain……
If you really stop to think about it what are we really telling ourselves about the past year when we jump on board with yet another New Year’s Resolution?
What are we really implying with the whole “New Year New You” concept anyway? I always find it to be a reminder of all the broken promises from the past year and that you weren’t good enough last year so let’s make you New somehow.
I also find that New is sooooo overrated!
We are a generation of new is better. When I used to talk to my grandparents it was amazing to hear about how it was in the olden days. Things actually seemed better. Maybe not quicker or easier but better.
Clothes got sewn by hand and even washed if you didn’t own a washing machine.
Food was home cooked.
There were no drive-thru restaurants.
If something broke, you fixed it or you learned from someone who knew how to fix it. You didn’t simply throw it away and buy a new one.
You walked to school. I know I used to. There was no hopping into a warm, cozy SUV that got you to school on time.
At one point I got to take a bus to school. If I missed that I got in trouble.
And don’t even get me started about money. I had chores and I earned money from working around the house. There were no handouts.
Christmas time taught me that Santa was loving and kind but that he couldn’t get me every single thing on my list. Looking back that was a good thing.
I got to have desires and wants that kept me excited about the new year!
So my friends as we enter into 2016 I’d like to challenge this so called New is Better concept that we are constantly coming up against.
Personally speaking I find myself having to constantly slow myself down because things are happening at such lightening speed all the time that I tend to feel nervous like I’m not keeping up or worse yet, I’m falling behind!
Ever feel that way? Nervous or anxious but you can’t quite put your finger on it?
Yeah. That happens to me too.
In fact this whole “keeping up with the Jones’ concept” is where cravings come from a lot of times. We work harder, skip meals, endure great stress and stay up late with the goal to get ahead. Skipping meals causes blood sugar issues which cause cravings. Stress depletes the body of minerals which cause cravings. Staying up late disrupts hormones which causes cravings.
What if we made this the year of New Year, Same You!
Because you are fine just the way you are. I mean really.
If you don’t quite believe me…..think about this for a minute….
It’s YOU who got you to where you are in life right now. And it’s pretty darn good!
It’s YOU who made it happen in 2015, even if you didn’t get done everything you wanted to. I bet if you sat down right now and made a list of all your accomplishments you’d be pretty stoked!?
It’s YOU who keeps striving to be better, smarter, faster, healthier and even wealthier? Yes?
Well then my friends why do we need to look any further than ourselves in 2016 for the answers?
I have to admit there comes a time when even I look to a coach to help me find clarity but that feels different.
I KNOW I want clarity and I KNOW I can’t figure it out by myself in that moment so I do whatever it takes to keep me moving forward but I am in full acceptance of who I am when I’m making that decision.
If that’s what is going on for you too then right on!!
The same goes for when my body feels like it needs a detox….I can feel it in my body. I am cranky. I crave sweets uncontrollably. My joints ache. I am tired at 3pm. I know my body can’t do it alone so I seek support from what happens to be my favorite 10 day detox and I get my body back to feeling goooood.
So my wish for you as we enter into the New Year is that you have peace in your heart knowing that whatever you want to create is within your reach because you have YOU.
And that my friends is good enough.